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Surrender as Radical Self-Love

Sometimes the loving most supple thing we can do for ourselves is surrender and honor other people’s choices. The choices other people make are neutral; our reaction makes them positive/negative or right/wrong. The mind is such a powerful goddess, in that what we believe is true for ourselves becomes our reality. This is what it means that we create our lives.  Our responses to the conditions and expectations we place upon others have a pattern, with deep roots within our subconscious mind. Did you know that the subconscious mind makes up about 85% of our brain? Everything we see, hear and experience roots itself in the subconscious. If we remember that our subconscious is composed of our past experiences, old thoughts, stuff we’ve been taught about ourselves, how we learn to react to other people’s choices or  how we react when others don’t do what we think they should be doing, then we see our capacity and need to reprogram our minds…to rewrite the scripts we tell ourselves and see how it’s never really about the ‘other person’ —it’s always about us.

I desire not to be hurt by the actions of others; I desire to see others as healers, as we are in this experience together healing each other. So rarely do I ever become “hurt” by others, as I am releasing that program from my life. I believe in love so dearly, and my capacity to flow through anything else (if it shows up in my life) .But because I don’t believe anyone is out to hurt me, I am not at the mercy of the actions of others. As a loose women, a divine goddess, flowing freely, I dance with any fears that show up until I resolve them back into love. This sexy dance heals and re-programs my script, you see. 

Feeling hurt, anger, sadness etc are emotional reactions to life and the behavior of others, and we learn what emotion is “appropriate” to choose based upon our programming. For example, XYZ steals all my money from my bank account and I am now sad and hurt. The action of stealing is neutral; the person can choose to feel sadness or hurt or surrender to what has happened and just love. I think that is what it means to ‘create our lives,’  in that we  create all our experiences for valuable, sometimes, unknown reasons—TO HELP FORWARD OUR LIVES. That’s why there’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong.’  We always have a choice.  We can choose hurt, anger, or any other fear-based reactions or we can choose to surrender, flow, and love. I choose the latter…no longer desiring to suffer in my mind, body, and spirit. No more outsourcing my emotions onto others; I am responsible for my feelings. I affirm that love is all around me. Choice is our power and to surrender is radical self-love. 

India Ame’ye is releasing her forth-coming book “Modern Women, Indigenous Spirit: A Woman’s to Healing.” Date of release has not yet been determined. 

Next Topic: How to return the most disgusting crimes, such as rape and molestation back into love? This may be a challenge to write, as I experience intense emotions around those topics. Yet, I trust that I will be able to offer a different perspective that could, perhaps,  provide possible solutions that to heal the body, mind, and soul-one day at a time. Our power is in the process. I’ll tread lightly. xo